Recently I have been hit with the “Reality Stick”. I’ve always thought I knew who I was, but recently I was told that I don’t. More then one person was pointed out that I don’t know who I am or what I want. And if I am going to be honest with myself, they are right.
Let’s go back to the begging of how all this “revelation” came to be. On Sunday I was at a friends house with some of his other friends and we were having a good time talking, watching movies and shows and even playing DC vs Mortal Kombat. When he asked if we wanted to watch this movie he was in. Of course we all said yes, the movie turned out to be really good and powerful. But at the same time it brought up way to many emotions. The movie “Unimaginable” is about a guy who is in an abusive relationship. He gets beat up and his BF always apologizes and says it won’t ever happen again, well at the end of the movie something happens (don’t want to say what in case anyone decides to watch it, it’s really good) any who through out the movie I was a mess all getting emotional and teary eyed. When the movie finished I had to walk out to the patio and get my together.
For some reason watching that happen brought to many painful memories. I’ve been told that o haven’t dealt with it and I’ve just suppressed those emotions. I agree I have suppressed them into a little black ball and pushed it as far as possible in the pit of my stomach. I have dealt with it, I mean you have to realize that it wasn’t your fault and even though you werent strong enough to stop it you are free from that pain. So why do I feel like that? Why have given that situation so much power?
I think from everything that I have been thru it has made me the person that I am….. But who is that really? I have came to a realization that I’m nothing special to anyone else. We are all the same, but it’s the actions we do that makes us who we are.
Now I’m in this predicament that I don’t know how to handle. I’ve been put on the stop, told that I am not the same person or that I’m not acting like I used too. It’s like I’m not good enough, anything I do or say isn’t good enough.
The second part is that I’ve told that I am pathetic, lonely, miserable and stupid. Maybe I am pathetic for letting people make me feel this way or for letting them question myself. I am who I am and I can’t change my stripes.
I do feel alone at times, even when I’m surrounded by friends and or family…….
But how do you get rid of the negative people on your life that mean the world to you? How do you stop them from trying to change the person you are??
I know I pretend or act like I am this strong uncaring person, but in real life I am too nice and caring. I’m thoughtful and considerate. I like helping people with out asking for anything in return.
So fucken sick and tired of people always putting me down, I don’t need this negativity in my life not right now. I have so much other shit to worry about.
If someone you love is hurting you, verbally, physically or even emotionally how do you say enough and be able move on, knowing you love the person and they are hurting now??!!
This few couple of weeks have been both exciting and lonely…..
Exciting because I am getting out and trying to make some new friends, which has always been a problem for me to do. One because I have always been in a relationship and they tended to take a lot of my time, not that I was/am complaining or that it’s a bad thing. In the situation that I am in at the moment it has given me the chance to have some freedom to go out and make some new much needed friends. Not that there was or is anything with the friends I have, it’s just that we aren’t always free to do things and I need more friends to hang out with. Now I have got to meet 4 people since this newly freedom that I have established.
There is Chris who seems like a great guy, but is in the closet and has a few to many issues I care not to deal with. I understand we all come out when we are ready but I have already been there done that. He has asked questions about different situations and all I can do is give him my advice, what he does with it is up to him.
Brad, is a co-worker that I figured I’d try to get to know and maybe be friends with. The guy is um what’s a nice word to describe him as besides saying “crazy”. Will just say he a bit out there. He texts me every so often but he seems so pushy and needy and we all know “Christian don’t do needy” lol Any who one text asked me when we could do lunch, I was like I don’t know we short staffed. His reply well can you answer when you can? Uh hellur did I not just say I DON’T KNOW. People come on…..Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints!! So now I reply short to the point answers.
Now there is Carlos, the only flaw I can find on him is that he has a man, lol but so do I. TEHE No but seriously he is actually a very nice caring guy, really thoughtful and sweet. I have actually hung out with him w few times alone and with his boyfriend. And they are both actually really kool to hang out with. They have welcomed me to there home, we have gone out to dinner and even the movies. Now you would think I would feel like a third wheel, but they don’t treat you like one. So you don’t feel left out. Now they are actually both very outgoing and into a lot of things. Carlos is an actor, model, trainer, and co-owner of his BF and his gym. Besides that he has a few other talents. Tom (his BF) used to own his own business, owns a gym, is a author and a personal trainer…plus they both can cook really good or I think so cuz it smells really good.
Well, those are pretty much the four people I have met and you can tell at least one to maybe two will be eliminated lol.
Now hanging out with Carlos and Tom have made me realize how lonely I really am. I mean I knew I was lonely but didn’t realize how much. But I have been trying to keep myself occupied by getting out more. But even that makes me feel lonely at times.
Well that’s the rant of the day…..
I know I’m late answering the same questions from the show 1 Girl 5 Gays. I’m two shows behind, but I am going to try to catch up. So this blog is actually going to have two episodes integrated in it. The first episode aired on 2/14 in the US (CA 9/10) the second episode aired on 2/21 in the US (CA 9/17). Now the show actually has 20 questions but some questions pertain to either specifically someone or someone to left or right on the show so I can’t really answer those. Enjoy!
EPISODE ONE
1. WOULD YOU WATCH A SPENCER AND HEIDI SEX TAP? No I can’t stand either one
2. DO YOU THINK YOU’RE FUNNY? I think I have my moments
3. WHAT’S YOUR BIGGEST WEAKNESS? Caring to much
4. DESCRIBE THE PERFECT BALLS not to big not to small
5. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN ARRESTED? no, but have been detained twice
6. WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENS AFTER YOU DIE? nothing your dead
7. IF YOU WERE A BRAND OF CLOTHING, WHAT BRAND WOULD YOU BE? hmm either American Eagle or Express
8. WHO WOULD YOU DO FERGIE OR KE$HA? Fergie she is was hotter, plus sh has a hot husband….three way??
9. HAVE YOU EVER CONFRONTED SOMEONE ON THEIR HOMOPHOBIA? No, don’t care how they feel
10. WHAT’S YOUR MOST MEMORABLE KISS? I have a few
11. HAVE YOU EVER DATED SOMEONE THAT WANTED TO CHANGE YOU? Yes, I think they all have
12. WHO IS THE CRUDEST PERSON YOU KNOW? Paul, he has a mouth on him sometimes
13. IF YOU COULD REMOVE ONE DAY FROM YOUR LIFE, WHAT DAY WOULD IT BE? Can’t think of a specific one
14. WHO WOULD YOU DO HARRISON FORD OR ALEC BALDWIN? Harrison Ford, Alec is a douche
15. DO YOU PREFER AMATEUR OR PROFESSIONAL PORN? Don’t really care for porn, but I would say amateur, professional is to fake
16. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE WITH SOMEONE’S ATTRACTION TO YOU? Yes, they get to touchy
17. WHAT MEAL REMINDS YOU OF YOUR MOTHER? Mole, I love me some mole
18. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU FELT HELPLESS? Today
EPISODE TWO
1. DESCRIBE THE PERFECT BLOW JOB A satisfying one
2. HOW FAR HAVE YOU GONE WITH SOMEONE IN THE BACK OF A CAB? No very rare I take a cab, but have in a car
3. HAVE YOU EVER TASTED YOUR OWN SEMEN? who hasn’t…..its curiosity
4. IF YOU HAD A SEXUAL “TO-DO” LIST, WHAT WOULD BE ON TOP OF THE LIST? More like who would be on top
5. WOULD YOU CONSIDER SPEED DATING? If I was single yes, would be a great way to meet people
6. WHO WOULD YOU DO SEAN PENN OR WYCLEF JEAN? Hmmm Sean Penn because of the movie Milk”
7. DESCRIBE THE BIGGEST PENIS YOU’VE SEEN IN REAL LIFE It was kinda too thick rather then big
8. HAVE YOU EVER HAD A CRUSH ON A SIBLING’S PARTNER? NO, me and my sister have totally different taste
9. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT A WOMAN WHO TWEETED ON THE DETAILS OF HER ABORTION? OK, I think that’s kind of empowering. Plus other woman can learn about someones experience
10. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU DAYDREAMED ABOUT? sex
11. IF YOU COULD UN-KNOW SOMETHING, WHAT WOULD IT BE? religion
12. WHO WOULD YOU DO ELLEN PAGE OR KRISTEN STEWART? Ellen Page she is just to adorable
13. IF YOU HAD A PAIR OF CLIPPERS, WHAT WOULD YOU DO TO YERXA’S BEARD? Trim it
14. IF THERE WAS A PILL THAT COULD MAKE YOU STRAIGHT, WOULD YOU TAKE IT? No, I am who I am. Straight or gay we all go through the same shit
15. OF THE GUYS WHO HAVE APPEARED ON THIS SHOW, WHO IS THE MOST PASSIONATE? Jake, Andrew and Yerxa
16. IF YOUR PARTNER WAS INFECTED WITH HIV BY A PREVIOUS PARTNER, WOULD YOU CONTINUE TO DATE HIM? Yes, HIV doesn’t define someone
17. IF YOU HAD A DIARY, WHAT WOULD TODAY’S ENTRY SAY? easy I just wrote about it “Life WTF!?”
I’m so sick and tired of this life, I wish I could just change everything about me, everything around me and everyone I know. But I cant, we have what we have and we try to make the best of it……whatever!
Now most of this blog wont make sense or it might jump around, but its the way my brain is working at the moment. Everything is jumbled up inside.
I’m so tired of all the bullshit, the drama and everything that comes in between or far from it. Ugh I’m so fucken annoyed that I don’t even know where to start. I’m just getting really tired of everything, unfortunately I’m only human and with being human comes feelings and emotions and caring and blah blah blah. I wish there was a way to just turn all that off and be happy. That’s all I want, is to be happy, but at this moment I am not. I hate everything about my life at the moment and it seems that anything I try to do to change always comes with some kind of consequence.
I wish I would have wrote this last night because in my head I had already typed everything up and worded it just the way I wanted to, but now it seems that I am stuck. I know what I want to say, I just don’t know how to say it.
I feel trapped! I’m annoyed, irritated and just plain pissed. Sometimes I wonder whats the point of all this> We love, we hate, we work and play for what? Whats the point of all this.
1. Love doesn’t always last and you will end up getting hurt. Yeah yeah I know “It’s better to have loved then never have loved at all” right? Well who ever wrote or came up with that can just go straight to HELL! If you never loved at all you wouldn’t know the pain and scars that is caused by that. And yeah you move on and all but you are still scared from it.
2. Hate, what does hate bring just more misery. And where does that take you?
3. Work, yeah work pays the bills and buys you nice things or the essentials. But how many people in this world work there hearts out to only stay in the same situation. Most people work hard to stay afloat, and yet still be drowning in bills. While others make more money and buy nicer things just to be in the same spot they were when they made less. We make more money we want nicer things, but that doesn’t make you happy. Well it does for a few moments then you want something else.
4.Play, who ever said “Work hard, Play hard” must have been an idiot! Yeah you work hard to go get trashed or spend all the money you made. Maybe I’m wrong but from the people around me that I have noticed do this it seems like a on going circle. And yet those people see everyone else who is saving money and trying to better themselves as boring and dull.
I don’t know, to be honest at this point of my life I have no idea where I am going. I have so much shit going on that I cant seem to figure out in which way I am heading. Am I going forward or backwards, I cant tell any more. The line between that is so blur that if I was guided in the right direction I wouldn’t even know.
Also, I think I’m beginning to realize some things about me that I might have known but chose to hide away deep in side me. I get so conflicted in so many ways that I confuse myself in figuring out who I really am. Most people think they know me, but they don’t. They know some aspects of me, but not the real me. I’m not a saint, but you say who is? But there are different levels of being a good person. I don’t know where that level lies. I try so hard to not to be like the labels society has placed on us, but I have came to realization that I am lying to myself.
I know I go through a lot of this, and maybe its because sometimes I over think things, and yeah I know most people are like “Here we go again”, but guess what it’s my life and if I want to go there over and over and yeah over again I am. That’s the only way one can figure out what the fuck is going on. I’m tired of people judging me or say they know me or put words in my mouth or judge what I am doing. I’m only human and flesh and blood. I can try as hard to shut out parts of who I am and what I am, but doesn’t mean I’m not them. I have came to pass, to realize that I have been lying to the most important person…..myself! I try to act a certain way, to be seen a certain way. But I’m a fake to a certain degree.
I am angry…I am hurt…I am tired…I am weak…I am loved…I am hated…I am misunderstood…I am confused…I am ME.
Here is another thing, I’m tired of apologizing for who I am. I work hard and I like nice things, and I like to take care of my things. If that makes me a materialistic person who only cares about his stuff and money, I guess I am. I’m not working just to blow my money.
I hate depending on people, because all they are gonna do is let you down. I’m use to standing on my own two feet, but it seems that right now my life is in other peoples hands. Hands that I’m not sure of where they may lead me, hands that I once trusted, and hands that I will need to learn to trust and confide.
Sometimes I don’t think I am ready for anything anymore, I doubt myself, I wonder and I wander, sometimes I loose myself in music. I try to learn from my mistakes and mistakes of others and yet I still feel lost. I wonder what the purpose of everything is, or what it means.
I’m lost….if anyone finds me wandering around……please return me.
So everyone has an in put in my relationship, so I have been seen Brad for almost a year (well a year in March). But everyone or most people believe or think that one of us if not both of us have cheated or will cheat. All I can say that everyone is different, not everyone is a cheater. Maybe we all have tendency to cheat, it’s just our actions that matter.
Now most people think that this relationship is doomed to fail for more then one reason and they are as follow.
Cheating- well we covered this one, if we trust each other and we are 100% honest with each other that’s all that really matters.
Distance- now I will say that this is one of the tough ones, yeah the distance is hard. We don’t get to physically do things such as go out to dinner or the movies or just plain go out and do something. The other part of this is the time difference even though it’s only an hour difference it’s hard. He wakes up earlier and usually goes to sleep an hour earlier then I do, although there are times we do go to bed at the same time.
Talking- hmm this one has it’s issues with in itself. The hour difference and people around us play a huge roll on the time we get to talk. Some times as sad as it is I seem to wait to be able to talk to him. Then it’s interruptions or other peoples drama or just situations that one of us have to do. So there are a lot of unforeseen situation, but we have to try to make the best of it, even as hard as it is sometimes.
Sex- now most people are curious about this subject and I won’t get into it cuz all you have to do is use your imagination and we are in the 21st century….lol some people believe or think that we need to have a fuck buddy since we don’t have that connection, and that knowing we have a FB will keep us from cheating. Now I get the whole connection thing, cuz yeah I miss holding him or going to sleep in the same bed, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to go sleep with the first guy that throws himself at me. Yeah we all got needs, but that’s not gonna make me go cheat.
With all this said most people don’t understand how we can make it work or we think we can make it work. It’s not easy at times and it is stressful and annoying at times too. I can’t just drive to his place or his job and go to lunch or dinner. I can’t kiss him goodnight or kiss him goodbye in the morning. But I think/know we have something special that I want to pursue.
So you might not think this relationship might work, and that’s ok because it’s my relationship and not yours. The only person that really matters in this is him and what he thinks. I’m in a relationship with him and not you.
Maybe you think a relationship like this is not for you for whatever reasons, but doesn’t mean it’s not for us. Yeah it will be some work, but what relationship isn’t…….
With that I say Good day to you! I said GOOD DAY!!
So like I stated before I am kinda hooked on the show 1 Girl 5 Gays (1G5G), so when I heard that the second season was gonna be airing soon I was actually kind of excited. I have watched the few episodes that I am able to watch in the US. Which sucks because in Canada they are in season 2 episode like 18 or so…booo! Well any who, I started to record the new episodes every Monday at 11pm on Logo (should I be getting paid for advertising this?? LOL). Well the first episode that they have uhm I’m kinda disappointed they could have started the new season here with better questions then this, but I did say I was going to answer all the questions as honestly as humanly possible. Now the show actually has 20 questions but some questions pertain to either specifically someone or someone on to there left on the show so I can’t really answer those. Enjoy!
WHAT CELEBRITY WOULD YOU NOT WANT TO SMELL? That’s an easy one Courtney Love, she just looks nasty!
HAVE YOU EVER ATTEMPTED AUTO FELLATIO? All I can say is I am not that flexible.
WHAT WAS HANGING ON THE WALL OF YOUR CHILDHOOD BEDROOM? If I remember correctly it was probably a poster of “The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles”.
WHAT GARMENT INSTANTLY MAKES AN ATTRACTIVE PERSON UNATTRACTIVE? Clogs, whoever created those shoes should be shot, that and a thong. I don’t care how HOT the guy is that is just wrong.
IT ANNOYS ME WHEN GAY MEN SAY (BLANK) When gay men say “Girl”, although I do it mockingly, but I don’t like it.
DESCRIBE YOUR NIPPLES Uhm round and sexy…lol I don’t know how to answer this question I mean they look like regular nipples.
IF MEN COULD CARRY CHILDREN, WOULD YOU GET PREGNANT? I would have to say yes, I have always wanted to have kids so if I could carry my own that would be great. Take the middle man out the picture….TEHE
WHO WOULD YOU DO, GENE SIMMONS OR RICHARD SIMMONS? Easy Gene Simmons, but I would rather do his son. They both have that long creepy tongue.
DO THE DUGGARS FROM THE SHOW “19 KIDS AND COUNTING” HAVE TOO MANY CHILDREN? I say to each there own, I have watched the show a few times and they genuinely love there kids so no I don’t think they have too many kids.
IF YOU COULD LIVE WITH OUT ONE EMOTIONS, WHAT WOULD IT BE? Hmmm this one I’m gonna have to think about, never thought about this. The easy choice would be “love” just because I don’t like to be hurt, but then I could say “hurt” so I could never feel pain. I’m gonna go with “envy”, seen I don’t really envy people can’t miss what you don’t use.
DO YOU USE THE WORD “RETARDED”? You know what I was thinking about this the other day. Reason why is because I remember seen this commercial about how the gay community doesn’t like it when people say “That’s so gay”, but it’s kinda hypocritical when we all say “That’s so retarded”. But yes I do say retarded, but then again I don’t really care what people think or say. I once again I say live and let live, am I right or wrong? We have became a population of “Politically Correct”
HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE ANAL SEX TO SOMEONE WHO HAS NEVER HAD IT? Painful as hell, but also very pleasurable once you are comfortable and relaxed. The anal is just a muscle once relaxed can be enjoyable. TEHE
DO YOU FIND SCARS AND BROKEN BONES SEXY? Hmmm depends on the scar, I think a small scar over the eye or on the eye brow is kinda sexy anything else NO, as for broken bones mmmmm NO!
OF THE GUYS FROM THIS SHOW, WHO WOULD YOU SAY IS THE MOST MISUNDERSTOOD? Matthew, I think he means well but at times comes out misunderstood
WHO WOULD YOU DO SHARON STONE OR DEMI MOORE? Demi Moore has a killer bod, but I think Sharon Stone could teach me a trick or two….Sharon Stone.
IS THE TERM “LIPSTICK LESBIAN” OFFENSIVE? I’m neither a lesbian or have any lesbian friends, so I couldn’t tell you. I’m not easily offended so I can’t say if it is or isn’t
WHAT WAS THE LAST COMPLIMENT PAID TO YOU? That was just recently today I was told I looked really cute…TEHE (blushes)
WHO TOOK CARE OF YOU THE LAST TIME YOU WERE SICK? No one :( I’m sick right now and no one to take care of me BOO!
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN UNABLE TO FORGIVE SOMEONE? Hmm I think after a while I really could careless, but doesn’t mean ill talk to the person.
Its not what you think so don’t get all excited. Have you ever felt like you are torn between two personas? I know this sounds bipolar, but I’m not (or don’t think so…ha ha). Anyway I always say that I have two main personas that fight to take over, most people I talk to know what I mean and kid about it. In one side you have Christian who can be really sweet, caring, thoughtful and loving and on the other side you have Ivan now he is mean, rude and pretty much unapologetic.
Lately I have been feeling really tired of being so nice and caring and all that nasty good stuff. I don’t care what you have to say or what you think or what opinions you have. If I really wanted to know I’ll beat it out of you haha. Ok maybe that’s a little drastic, but seriously why do people think I care about there garage or who you are talking to, I never asked!
Sometimes it seems like it takes every fiber in me to not open my mouth and be like “who gives a flying rats ass”. And yes sometimes Ivan comes out and rips you a new one.
Like the other day at work I had to rip my coworker a new one both in his personal live and work related. Now people at work now I don’t play around when it comes down to work. Now don’t get it twisted I’m not a model employee, I just do what I have to do. Now I will say that my input in some of my past coworkers had been heard, hence the word past, they are no longer working here. I don’t care if you have a family to raise or bills to pay. Guess what so do I, but I do my work and if you don’t and you affect my job process oh believe me you don’t want to go there cause you aren’t going to win.
So back to how I feel, I know its horrible but I hate people, that’s why I don’t have to many friends. Usually people start to annoy me, irritate me even bore me. I know sad but true!
Im just so tired of being nice and all, cause more then half the time I don’t care. I think with some recent events I have started to really not care any more. Why should I, all it does start arguments or fights, disagreements.
Is this normal to feel this way? Or is it maybe that I’m just freaking tired of everything and everyone and need some space?
Okay, so I decided to watch 1 Girl / 5 Gays (1G5G) and post some of (sometimes all) the questions from the show and try to answer them. Now I’m going to be completely honest of this 1G5G questions that they have and we will see how it goes. After watching the show I had to delete two questions because they pertained to someone on the show (either specifically someone or someone on there left) Alright here we go…
IF YOUR DATING POOL WERE LIMITED TO THE CAST OF ONE TV SHOW, WHAT SHOW WOULD IT BE? Smallville….hello Tom Welling and Justin Hartley (can we say samich) or Vampire Diaries there are some HOT HOT HOT guys on that show.
I HATE (BLANK) ABOUT MYSELF. Hmmm I’d say my body, but working on that (or trying too)
HAVE YOU EVER FANTASIZED ABOUT SOMEONE WHO APPEARS ON THIS SHOW? Duh! Have you seen Jake the nurse, ok maybe not fantasize but he is hot. Plus a few more
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN INTIMIDATED BY A PARTNERS BODY? No not really, all my ex’s have had similar bodies as I do
HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN A STRIPTEASE? Yeah who hasn’t
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU FELT VIOLATED? I was super little, like between 8-10 years old.
WHERE IS THE STRANGEST PLACE SEMEN HAS ENDED UP? Does the balcony count or the patio of an apartment complex count as strange?
WHO WOULD YOU DO MACAULAY CULKIN OR JONATHAN TAYLOR THOMAS? Easy! Jonathan Taylor Thomas, did I have to spell his entire name? Yes Yes I did!!
OTHER THAN YOUR FAMILY, WHO DO YOU THINK HAS THE MOST LOVE FOR YOU? Paul (we have been through a lot)
OF THE GUYS WHO APPEAR ON THIS SHOW, WHO WOULD YOU DESCRIBE AS MOST CONFIDENT? Hhmmm I would have to say its a toss up between Jake and Andrew
COULD YOU DATE SOMEONE WHO HAS A TATTOO ON THEIR FACE? No, that’s plain retarded
ARE FAKE BREASTS SEXY? I think real or fake are sexy, just don’t want to touch them hahaha
HAVE YOU EVER REGRETTED USING A DRUG? I’ve only tried 2 and don’t regret or care to do it again….it was a bust.
WHO WOULD YOU DO JAMES VAN DER BEEK OR JOSHUA JACKSON? I’d have to say Joshua Jackson he is kinda cute
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU’VE FALLEN OUT OF LOVE? When I stop caring or even trying, I can easily fall in and out of love (kinda sad, but true)
HAVE YOU EVER FELT UNCOMFORTABLE WITH SOMETHING YOU’VE BEEN AROUSED BY? No, don’t really get uncomfortable on a lot of things. Okay maybe if it was a woman…haha kidding been there.
HAVE YOU EVER HAD BAREBACK SEX? Yes, think we all have at one point or another. Is it safe? No, but I think once you are in a committed relationship and neither person is cheating I say it’s all about trust.
WHO DO YOU IDOLIZE? I don’t really idolize people, but I do look up to my mom. She is one hard working women.
What is this world coming too?? So in the news there was a women who shot and I believe killed her two kids because they talked back. A man strangles and stomps on the babies head because he wouldn’t stop crying. You hear more and more about this people that kill there kids because of the most dumbest things. Yeah I get that they were probably not in there right mind and all but seriously hurting your flesh and blood? There was even a story of this guy who stabbed and killed his grandmother because she wouldn’t let him borrow the car. There are a lot more stories about parents killing or just plain hurting there kids. I mean is it that serious, if you didn’t want kids you shouldn’t have them and if you did and then figured out you didn’t want them or couldn’t/can’t handle it all they had to do is take them to the Fire Dept or Police Dept. You can leave your kids there with out been asked any questions or consequences. With so many options parents decided to abuse, kill and hurt there kids. With so many options all one can ask themselves is Why?
Now the funny thing to all this and not funny as in ha ha. Is There are a lot of organizations that forbid or refuse and are against gay people adopting kids. That’s the funny thing they rather let this parents abuse and kill them then having two gay loving parents. Yeah I know I know they don’t want this kids to die and they rather have them in a loving “Christian” family to raise them. What I want to know is what can a heterosexual couple give a child that a same sex couple can’t.
They wanna talk about the value of marriage and how sacred it is, but how many parents are divorced. How many broken dis-functional abusive families are there?
What is this world coming too that we have to make everyone as unhappy as we are. Plus you never hear a gay person killing there kids or shooting up a school or work place. So I am beginning to wonder how sane straight people really are……
What is the wallpaper on your cellphone? RANDOM WALLPAPER
Did you get enough sleep last night? NO
What’s the first thing you thought about this morning? THAT I WAS STILL TIRED
What’s the last thing you thought about before you went to sleep last night? RATHER NOT SAY….TEHE
What do you have handy at your bedside? NOTHING DON’T GOT A BED
Grilled or Fried? DEFINITELY FRIED
What makes you unique? ME DUH!
Are you afraid of the dark? NO
Favorite hangout? HOME
3 things you cannot live without? AIR, WATER AND FOOD DUH OK OK CELL, TV AND LAPTOP
Favorite song? GLITTER IN THE AIR BY PINK (WELL ATM, IT CHANGES)
What are you afraid of? MYSELF
Are you a giver or a taker? GIVER
What are your nicknames? DEPENDS WHO YOU ASK
What is your Dad’s middle name? CARLOS
What is your Mom’s middle name? ISELA
What 1 thing would you take with you on a deserted island? FRYING PAN
Favorite TV commercial? GEICO
Who’s your cellphone provider? T-MOBILE
First thing you will save in a fire? ARIES
Whats your favorite color? RED
What are the things you always take with you? CELL PHONE, WALLET, KEYS, RINGS AND WATCH
What did you wanna be when you were a kid? WORLD RULER
What do you usually do when the clock turns 10:10? AM-WORKING PM- BEING LAZY
What’s the color of your bed sheet? DIDN’T I SAY I DON’T HAVE A BED
What the last thing you do before you go to bed? WATCH TV
Did America really put a man on the moon? GOOD QUESTION
So I just finished watching two episodes of 1 Girl 5 Gays. The first couple times I saw this show I found it kinda boring and dumb, to me it seemed it had no substance so I stopped watching it. The other day the boyfriend wanted me to watch one of the episodes, the only problem is that since I’m in the US I cant really watch the new episodes. Which sucks!! Well after the show he wanted to know what I thought about the show, and I will have to say I wasn’t to impressed with the show. A lot of the questions they asked where retarded. Who cares who the last person they made cry, and what chic they would sleep with…..Seriously??!!
Well I knew watching this show and having a discussion about this show wasn’t going to be a good. And boy was I right, we ended up having what he calls and argument. I say disagreement he says argument. Any who well the conversation ended with us just stop talking and we called it an early night.
Now, last night I was bored and couldn’t sleep and there wasn’t really anything to watch so I turned to LOGO to see what was on. Well I guess you can tell what I ended up watching, yep you guessed it 1 Girl 5 Gays. Which to my surprise they did have a few good questions, they only thing that I hate is the fact that when they get into a good topic they don’t get deep. I cant remember what they were talking about on this one episode but it was a good topic and wish they could have gotten more into detail, not just that I wanted to hear what one of the guys had to say. I like to get into discussions about good topics, and let me tell you I can go on and on depending on a good topic.
So, so far after watching this two topics I am kinda hooked, yeah some of the questions weren’t all that great but it wasn’t that bad. So now I have the show been taped just wish I could watch the second season, I just have to wait.
Recently on the news they had two 2nd graders having oral sex while the other kids watched in the class room. Two 2nd graders wow that’s pretty much all I can say, it’s crazy how younger and younger this kids are starting to experiment if you wanna call it that. Shoot this kids put me to shame, guess I was really a late bloomer.
Now we were talking about this at work and I can’t help get both frustrated and defensive. Why is it that people easily turn to blame the TV and the Internet? Yeah they do show some provocative stuff on both, but books and magazines do too. Now I don’t blame any of this times of media. Who I blame are the parents, they have the tools to prohibit anyone from watching anything they don’t want them too. It’s called PARENTAL CONTROL every cable box has one, the Internet has it too so there is no excuse.
Yeah I can say that one thing we can’t really control is what they hear and talk about with there peers. I can honestly say we are all guilty about this one. And it’s human nature to talk to your peers about pretty much everything, but blaming TV and the Internet just baffles me. Is it that people don’t want to take blame for the situation and easier to blame someone else?
What are your thoughts? Who’s to blame??
You know this week has been one of the longest weeks for me. Work has been a tad hectic and that goes as well for my personal live….
Monday was crazy we got 6 trays of work which none of us were expecting. The courier who brings us our mail from the post office no longer has access to our floor. He has to submit some form for my job to do a background check. Now mind you he has been bringing us our work for as long as I have been there…. UGH!! Then I had an eye appointment that took forever and a day. By the way 5 days later and still no contacts :(
Tuesday was actually not to bad we were slow bur not to bad. To be honest I couldn’t tell you what happen that day…. Lol
The rest of the week one of my coworkers had a doctors appointment and was gonna be coming in late. She arrived at 10 and took her time to get to work…. Seriously??
Friday she had another appointment as well as did I. Hers was early and mine was at 10:30 so I left 15 minutes early to get there on time. Only to find out that they screwed up. So I’m suppose to be getting a physical (seen I get one every year) well turns out it hadn’t been a year just yet. I still had 5 days to go till my insurance would pay for it. So instead I got my blood work.
I get to work and my coworker still hasn’t arrived. Which put us behind but luckily we were able to kick ass and get everything done by 5 pm. WOHO!
Now mind you through all this I still have to be mindful of my roommate, my boyfriend and Aries. Aries well he is just too cute and you can’t really be annoyed or frustrated with him for too long. He just lays next to you and chills while you do whatever you are doing.
The roommate well if he ever home from work or whatever he is up too I have to go stay some where if he is going to be having company. So that means I have to find something to do and wait for a text to let me know its ok to come back to the apt.
So this is the deal I am staying at his place till I figure out what exactly I am doing. Which things aren’t looking all that great.
Now the boyfriend as cute as he is, well he is stressing over work and me coming up to see him. Which is stressing me out cuz I know what could happen. Now mind you I’m pretty laid back half of the time and u try not to let to many things get to me, but at this point I have asked him if we should just cancel it. If he stressing this much over me coming how are things gonna be after awhile??
Now this week we haven’t had to much communication like we normally do due to the fact that he hasn’t been home. He has been staying at some relatives and well him been in the closet it’s hard for him to talk I guess.
Well that’s all this week, but today bites the cake!!!
So I went to work like normal, I missed a text from last night that I replied back to saying yes I work today. It was the roommate, which have I mentioned he is my ex of six years. Yeah I know…
Well any who he calls and wants to know if I fed Aries which o replied back yes and I walked him. After that I mentioned that he needed to start paying for his insurance. Which brought this huge argument over really nothing. All I asked was for that but all this BS came out if no where. I mean seriously? He owes me money which I know realistically speaking I am never getting back. I know the way he is, so why still be his friend??? I have known him for 7 years and he isn’t all that bad. He just has his moments….
Well know I have to look for a place to stay seen that I have been kicked out at the end of the month, figure out how to get to the airport and deal with a stressed out boyfriend.
To be honest at the moment I’m so stressed and tired of everything I just want to go crawl under a rock and stay there.
I have to figure out what I am doing, how I am doing this all before I leave on Tuesday and have I mentioned I need to take my brother to the other side of town to see the main campus guidance counselor…..
I need a vacation from myself!!
So today at one of my coworkers asked a pretty good question. He had been watching this show and apparently the teenage child was having sex in there house. So the question was…..
How would you feel if you caught your child having sex and in your house?
Ok, so that’s two questions in one, but none the less its a good question or I think so. Plus, its always good to hear my other coworkers response to questions like this.
Her response was, my children knew to respectful and I know not to have sex in my house. This is why I never told them when I was staying home, or coming home early or even when I was on vacation. This way I knew exactly what they were up too. Her son (now 30+) asked her if she should go with him to the pharmacy to go buy condoms. Now mind you he was a teenager when this happen. Now me personally I don’t think I would have to balls to ask my mom to take me to go get condoms. Although, she did take him but on the way had a conversation about been respectful to the girl and maybe he should wait. He replied with mom I’m including you in this because I respect you, but I’m going to have sex either way.
My supervisor was thee and her take on this was “ill beat the living day lights out of them” LOL Now her mom was a preacher or some sort of church authority. And if she was caught having sex yet alone in her parents house she would have gotten a whopping.
My other coworker he said he would try to be calm about it and take to his daughter about it. Now his daughter is 13-14 and she lives in another city with her mother and he very vaguely sees her so not really sure what kind of relationship he has with her.
My thing is this, anyone who wants to have sex is going to have sex one way or another. If it is at the parents house or at the other persons parents house, or maybe at a friends house. Where ever it is going to happen its going to happen. You can’t stop and threatening your kids with violence all its gonna do is make them want it even more. So this is what I would do, I would sit down my child talk to them about all the consequences that comes with having sex; pregnancy, STD’s and the emotional part. I would get them some sort of birth control depending on the sex of the child. Yeah most people might think that I am condoning sex, but like I said I rather know they are having protected sex and been aware of what they are doing. Plus if they want to have sex they are going to do it with me knowing or not knowing, I rather want to know. Now this is all in theory mind you, because once we become parents are views might change. I just hope that if and when I do have kids I have an open mind to be able to talk to my kids. And hopefully I have a boy…..TEHE!
Whats your take?
Provide birth control?
Forbid them from having sex?
Would you want to know they are having sex?
Would you let them have sex in your house?
These are the million dollar questions……
